I decided to write this after a breakup which knocked me for six.
I knew things weren’t as great as they were at the start, but why did I lose myself during this breakup. I was reeling and I started to question everything; who was I in the relationship, who am I now, what has life got in-store for me in the future, what did I want from my life going forward and as such what was my plan now. As a result, over the weeks that followed I noticed the times I felt good and the times that I felt so low I didn’t want to get out of bed.
I notice patterns in the behaviours of myself and others around me post break up. These interactions would lead to a positive outcome or a negative one. It was like I could stand back and watch my interactions and see where I was going right or wrong. As a result I was able to catalogue tips to feel better, pit falls to avoid and positive activities to help me and anyone else getting over a breakup.
I came out of this breakup the best me I had ever been and I want to share this road map with others. I still reflect on some of these tips and habits and as such some of these are useful in wider life context and not just breakups.
This is for like minded individuals who want to acknowledge their thoughts and feeling and come out the other side; stronger, better and happier. This is to support the creation of positive actions and thoughts to move on and come out of the experience quicker, easier and hopefully with a lot less pain.
By reviewing the routines, trends, mindset and thought processes laid out in the book, the plan is to identify and address the source of the pain quickly allowing the process of moving to begin and to get through this a lot more easily.